Anonymous Message Ideas: 66+ Things to Send a Friend

How to write an anonymous message people actually like

The best anonymous messages are short, specific and kind enough to repost. “You’re nice” is forgettable. “You always remember everyone’s birthday and it makes people feel seen” is the kind of message someone screenshots and keeps. A few rules that work:

• Be specific. Mention a real moment, habit or trait.
• Keep it short. One or two sentences get read and reposted. Paragraphs get skimmed.
• Write something you’d be okay seeing on their story. Plenty of people share the best messages publicly.
• Remember anonymity hides your name, not your style. Inside jokes are a giveaway, which is half the fun.

Compliments (the ones people screenshot)

Kind messages are the most-shared kind. They cost you nothing and can make someone’s week.

• You’re the reason our group chat is actually fun.
• I don’t think you realise how much people look up to you.
• Your laugh is honestly contagious.
• You always make people feel included, even when you don’t have to.
• You have the best taste in music of anyone I know.
• I admire how you never pretend to be someone you’re not.
• You were really kind to me once and you probably don’t even remember it.
• You’re way more talented than you give yourself credit for.
• Whoever ends up with you is lucky.
• You glowed up and it’s not just your looks.
• You’re the friend everyone wants to sit next to.
• Your outfits are always on point. Teach me.

Anonymous messages for a best friend

For the person who already knows you too well, so you’ll need to be clever.

• I’d help you hide a body. No questions asked.
• Thank you for staying when other people left.
• I still laugh about that one trip and I hope you do too.
• You’re the first person I want to tell good news to.
• I never said it, but you got me through a really bad year.
• We should do something spontaneous before this year ends.
• I’m proud of you. That’s it. That’s the message.
• You’re family, you just showed up later.
• I hope we’re still this weird when we’re 60.
• Your advice is annoyingly always right.

Funny anonymous messages

Low stakes, high reward. These get reposted on stories the most.

• I’ve seen your search history. Just kidding. Or am I.
• You still owe me a snack from last month and you know it.
• Your cooking is a crime and I want to be arrested again.
• Be honest: you replied ‘haha’ without laughing, didn’t you.
• If you were a vegetable you’d be a cute-cumber.
• I’m starting a fan club for you. Membership: 1.
• Your dance moves should be studied by scientists.
• You’re the main character, but in a comedy.
• I named my plant after you. It’s thriving.
• Stop posting gym selfies, some of us are trying to stay lazy in peace.

Crush confessions (without the panic)

The classic reason people use anonymous links. Keep it sweet and specific, never pushy.

• I’ve had a crush on you since the first day we talked.
• Every time you text me, I smile like an idiot.
• You’re the reason I check my phone so often.
• I wish I had the courage to say this to your face.
• You looked really good today. Just thought you should know.
• If you ever need someone to talk to, I’d always say yes.
• I like how you notice small things about people.
• Hint: we’ve talked about our favourite movies before.
• Someone in your contacts thinks you’re cute. It’s me.
• I’d choose you in every group project, and every other thing too.

Honest (but kind) feedback

Useful truth, said gently. The goal is to help, not to hurt.

• You’re great, but you interrupt people a lot. Just something to notice.
• You’d be even better at this if you believed in yourself more.
• I think you need a break more than you admit.
• You deserve friends who make as much effort as you do.
• Your ideas are good. Say them louder in meetings.
• Sometimes your jokes land a bit hard. Most of the time they’re hilarious.
• You don’t have to reply to everyone instantly. It’s okay to rest.
• You’re allowed to say no. People will still like you.

Deep questions to ask anonymously

Questions get replies when you post the answers back on your story.

• What’s something you’ve never told anyone?
• What do you want people to remember you for?
• What was the hardest thing about this year for you?
• If you could restart one thing, what would it be?
• Who do you miss the most right now?
• What’s the bravest thing you’ve ever done?
• What makes you feel most like yourself?
• Is there someone you never got to say sorry to?

Prompts to post with your own link (to get more messages)

If you want to receive anonymous messages, the prompt on your story or status matters more than anything else.

• “Send me anonymous messages, I won’t know it’s you 🤫”
• “Tell me your honest first impression of me”
• “Confess something, I promise I’ll keep it secret”
• “Rate my vibe out of 10”
• “What’s one thing you’d change about me?”
• “Ask me anything, I’ll answer the best ones”
• “Describe me in one word”
• “Tell me something you’ve never said out loud”

What not to send

Anonymity lowers the cost of honesty, and it lowers the cost of cruelty too. Skip anything about someone’s body, weight or appearance they can’t change, rumours, threats, or anything you wouldn’t want traced back to you. Being anonymous doesn’t make harassment legal, and platforms can share logs with police when there’s a credible threat.

Where to send them

To send an anonymous message to someone, open their anonymous message link (usually in their Instagram bio, story or WhatsApp status), type your message and tap send. No account needed. If you want to receive messages like these yourself, create your own free link and post it with one of the prompts above. Our guide on how to send an anonymous message covers every other method too.

Frequently asked questions